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Easy Ways To Talk To Your Family About Your Love Life

Easy Ways To Talk To Your Family About Your Love Life

Relationships can be difficult, but often the toughest part comes after you have committed to each other, the part where you have to introduce your love to your family.

It is never easy and your family members might have certain expectations from you. Today we’re going to talk about some tricks you can use while introducing the love of your life to your family.

Introducing your partner to your family is the next logical step you take after you have solidified the relationship.

You can try to make sure that it goes smoothly, without any drama or hiccups but your parents may be a bit on the conservative side and not open to the idea of you dating a person of another race, ethnicity or religion.

Similarly, they may not be aware of your sexuality and this is where our first point comes into play…

Have the Face-to-Face Talk

There is nothing wrong with you texting or calling to let them know about a new development in your life.

However, nothing beats the good old fashioned Face-to-Face talk. When you text someone, the other person only gets to see your words and it’s really easy to misunderstand the emotions that are attached to it.

When you call someone they can hear your voice and perceive your emotional state through your tone.

While, in a Face-to-Face conversation, they can see you and understand your point of view better because they can pick up on the emotional signs of your body language. These are subtle, soft signals that show happiness, sadness or despair.

Additionally, having an offline conversation like this is more likely to give you positive results.

Now, let's jump to point number two, which is…

Picking a Neutral Territory

Now, you might be thinking, "Hey , have you lost it?

You make it sound like a war or something." Well, no, I haven’t lost it and it is kind of a negotiation more than a war.

You have to understand what the neutral territory represents.

Do you remember when you were a kid and felt safer to invite your friends to your place instead of going to theirs?

Well, our house makes us feel safe and while having this conversation you have to make sure that both you and your family members feel comfortable. Otherwise, the situation can be a little awkward for everyone present and that may not be a great idea.

Also, holding these difficult conversations like these in a neutral territory is more likely to give you a positive result.

We would suggest that you play your cards right when you set up the meeting.

Experts say, "If one intends on having face-to-face conversation but are concerned about boundaries violation, consider having the conversation at a 'neutral territory' where both parties have equal grounds and can step aside to regulate emotions, such as at a park."

So, there you go we have two points covered Face-to-Face conversation and neutral territory.

Let's go to number three.

Explain What Your Partner Brings to the Table

This is the part that can be a little bit tricky for young couples. Because you’re less experienced, you may not understand what you are adding to each

other's lives so it’ll likely be difficult to explain this. Try to take some time to understand how you are adding value to each other’s worlds, think about things your partner your backbone?

How do you complement each other?

Once you have a clear picture of these types of things, then you are ready to go in and relay this info to your family.

Your partner might be your rock, your best friend or great at providing emotional and moral support.

Explaining these things will help to shift the discussion in your favour and help your family members to understand your point of view.

With that, now you have three points covered for your face-off with your family.

Let's move to number four…

Be Straightforward in Telling Them What You Want

This is something you have to clear about even before you set up the meeting.

Ask yourself these questions, "Why am I setting up this meeting?

What do I want to achieve?” And “Do I want support from my family or am I seeking their approval?"

A set agenda will help you gain an upper hand in the meeting. Additionally, have a straightforward approach.

The more direct you are with your goal, the easier it will be for you to achieve. Of course, it will require patience, your family members might not necessarily approve of your partner first.

Even if that’s the case it doesn’t mean they never will.

Try to keep an open mind.

Speaking of talking, there might be more than one conversation involved and this brings us to number five…

This May Take More Than One Conversation

We all wish we lived in a world where we could just introduce our partner to our family members and they would instantly get along.

Our parents would congratulate us and have happy tears in their eyes, while they say, "Well done, we are so proud of you." Unfortunately, this isn’t always the norm.

You see, there are many different types of people in this world.

Not everyone is liberal and not everyone is as open and accepting of others as you might be. This includes your family and telling them about this new person in your life might take more effort.

For example, if you are going to come out to your family and tell them that you are in a same-sex, open or polyamorous relationship, it could take some time for them to accept it.

This ultimately depends on the kind of people they are and you will have to be patient with them.

We would suggest that you take it slow, explain things to them in a step by step process. This will help your family members accept the fact that you are dating someone.

Always remember when it comes to relationships, slow and steady wins the race.

The world is transforming everyday and while people are trying to keep up with these changes, not everyone is good at it.

Some people take their own sweet time to adapt to the situation. For this reason, it is very important to understand that you give your family members the time and space needed to come to terms with this new development in your life.

They are your family after all and even if it is tough at first, it will eventually work out.

So, have you told your family who you are dating?

How did they react?

Let us know in the comment section below, we would love to hear from you.